There’s a quiet grief many of us carry — a sense that we’ve always been a little too loud, too sensitive, too ambitious, too emotional, too much.

But what if the truth is this:
You weren’t too much.
You were just unaccommodated.

You were gifted — and exhausted from the weight of that invisible labor.
You were loud — because you had something to say, but no one really listened.
You were soft — and learned to flinch from life’s harsh edges.
You masked — long before you knew what masking was.

And now? You’re tired. Not the kind of tired that a nap can fix.
Sacredly tired. The kind that comes from years of performing survival.

Survival Isn’t the Goal Anymore

Many of us were raised to prioritize achievement, to push through, to carry others even when we were sinking. We learned to keep going no matter what. We celebrated burnout as a badge of honor. We wore our overfunctioning like armor.

But what if rest is also productive?
What if softness is strength?
What if you’re allowed to put down the performance?

Here’s the truth:
Meeting your own needs is not selfish — it’s sacred.
Caring for your body, your time, your energy, and your spirit is not a luxury. It’s your birthright.

The Cost of Self-Abandonment

When we ignore our needs for too long, our bodies keep the score. Chronic stress, anxiety, burnout, resentment — they don’t come out of nowhere. They’re signals. SOS flares from a system that’s been running on empty for too long.

If you’ve felt angry, disconnected, numb, or like you're just going through the motions — it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because you’ve been surviving. But we’re not meant to live in survival mode forever.

Healing begins when we stop apologizing for what we need.

Let This Be the Moment You Choose You

If you’re done pretending, if you’re craving spaces where you can be soft, real, and a little messy— welcome home.

We save seats for women like you.
The ones who are loud and quiet, bold and tender, tired but still here.
You don’t have to keep earning your worth. You already are.

So take the nap. Say no. Take up space. Cry if you need to. Laugh until your chest aches. Ask for help. Take your damn time.

Your needs are not a problem to fix.
They are a compass — leading you home to yourself.

If you need a therapist who actually gets it AND actually has the skills to help you reach calm you crave- give our office a call.

Sending Love & Light,

Jamie Vollmoeller, LCSW

Founder