Dear fellow neurodivergent parent,

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your child’s stimming or wondered about your own habits and mental health—like tapping, pacing, or humming—this is for you. Stimming isn’t something to fear or fix. It’s as normal for neurodivergent individuals as breathing, and embracing it can help us thrive as parents, partners, and individuals.

Let’s explore what stimming is, why it’s so important, and how we can reduce the shame and stigma around it—for ourselves and our kids.

What Is Stimming?

Stimming, short for “self-stimulatory behavior,” refers to repetitive actions that help regulate emotions or sensory experiences. For neurodivergent individuals, stimming is a natural and meaningful way to:

• Find calm during overwhelming moments.

• Process sensory input in a world that can feel too loud or chaotic.

• Express emotions when words aren’t enough.

Some common examples of stimming include:

• Hand-flapping or finger-tapping

• Rocking back and forth

• Twirling hair or spinning objects

• Repeating words or phrases (echolalia)

• Playing with sensory toys like fidgets

Why Do Neurodivergent Individuals Stim?

Stimming helps the brain regulate itself, much like taking deep breaths when stressed. For neurodivergent individuals, it can serve a variety of purposes:

1. Regulating Sensory Input

The neurodivergent brain processes sensory input differently. Stimming helps block out overwhelming sensations or provides the stimulation needed to stay focused.

2. Managing Emotions

Big feelings—whether they’re joy, anxiety, or frustration—can feel even bigger for neurodivergent people. Stimming helps release and balance these emotions.

3. Communicating Needs

For individuals who are nonverbal or struggle with emotional expression, stimming can be a way to communicate: I’m excited, I’m stressed, or I need space.

How Does Stimming Impact Mental Health?

When embraced, stimming has many positive effects on mental health. However, societal misunderstanding and stigma can create challenges.

The Positives

• Stress Relief: Stimming acts as a natural stress reliever, like a built-in coping mechanism.

• Focus and Grounding: It helps redirect attention and provides comfort in high-pressure situations.

• Self-Expression: Stimming can be joyful and empowering, offering a way to feel connected to your body and emotions.

The Challenges

The real problem isn’t stimming—it’s how the world reacts to it. Misunderstanding, judgment, and pressure to “stop” stimming can lead to:

• Shame and Anxiety: Feeling judged for stimming can cause self-doubt and emotional distress.

• Masking Behavior: Suppressing stimming to fit in can result in burnout, sensory overload, and emotional dysregulation.

How to Reduce Shame Around Stimming

Here’s the good news: you have the power to create a world where stimming is accepted and celebrated—starting in your own home.

1. Normalize Stimming

Talk about stimming as a natural and healthy behavior. Explain to your kids (and remind yourself!) that it’s their body’s way of taking care of them.

2. Create Safe Stimming Spaces

Make sure your home, school, or work environment allows for stimming without judgment. This might mean giving your child access to sensory tools or advocating for understanding with teachers and caregivers.

3. Reframe Stimming as a Superpower

Instead of seeing stimming as a distraction or “quirk,” celebrate it as a strength. It’s a tool that helps neurodivergent individuals process the world in their own unique way.

4. Use Tools and Resources

Fidget toys, weighted blankets, and other sensory-friendly items can make stimming more accessible and enjoyable.

My Journey as a Neurodivergent Mom

I’ll be honest—embracing stimming hasn’t always been easy. Growing up, I was told to “stop fidgeting” or “sit still,” and I carried that shame for years. But as I learned more about my neurodivergent brain, I realized stimming wasn’t something to hide—it was a way to thrive.

Now, as a mom, I let my kids see me stim. When I tap my fingers during a tough moment or hum to calm myself, I’m showing them it’s okay to regulate their emotions in their own way. In turn, they’ve felt freer to flap, spin, and stim without fear of judgment.

Additional Resources for Parents

If you’d like to learn more about stimming and how to support neurodivergent individuals, here are some helpful tools:

• Books:

• Uniquely Human: A Different Way of Seeing Autism by Barry M. Prizant

• NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity by Steve Silberman

• Online Communities:

• Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN)

• ADDitude Magazine

• Sensory Tools:

• Fidget spinners, chewable jewelry, and noise-canceling headphones are widely available online and in stores.

Stimming Is a Superpower, Not a Problem

Here’s the truth: stimming is as normal as breathing. It’s not something we need to fix or hide—it’s a vital part of how neurodivergent individuals thrive.

When we embrace stimming as a strength, we create a world where neurodivergent people feel safe, accepted, and celebrated—for exactly who they are.

With love and understanding,

Jamie

Have you ever noticed how certain emotions push you toward behaviors you later regret? Maybe it’s a rough day at work that makes you reach for a drink or feelings of loneliness that tempt you to escape through substances. These moments, driven by emotional triggers, can feel like they control you. But the truth is, they don’t have to define your choices. By understanding emotional triggers that lead to substance abuse and learning how to manage them, you can break free from harmful patterns. This guide will walk you through actionable steps to recognize them, build healthier coping mechanisms, and find lasting relief from the cycle of emotional stress and substance use.

What are emotional triggers?

Emotional triggers are those intense feelings or experiences that spark an immediate, often overwhelming, reaction in you. They’re deeply tied to your:

● Past experiences
● Unresolved emotions and trauma
● Coping mechanisms developed over time

When it comes to emotions that can drive substance abuse, sadness seems to play a major role. This is according to a report in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, which analyzed data from over 10,000 people across four studies spanning 20 years.

When emotional triggers lead to substance abuse, it’s often because substances provide a temporary escape or relief. These short-term fixes, however, create a harmful cycle where triggers reinforce substance dependence. This makes it all the more harder to break free.

How to identify your emotional triggers?

It's not enough to know what emotional triggers are. You need to learn how to recognize them in you.

Start by asking yourself: What moments or feelings tend to push me toward substance use? Triggers aren’t always obvious—they can hide in routines or habits that feel automatic.

Thus, to identify your triggers, be sure to:

Keep a trigger journal

Grab a notebook (or a phone) to write down moments when you feel overwhelmed. What were you doing? Who were you with? How did you feel? Over time, patterns will emerge.

Look for subtle signs

Sometimes, triggers show up as physical sensations—tight shoulders, a racing heart, or a gnawing feeling in your stomach. Other times, they’re linked to recurring thoughts, like I can’t handle this or I need a break. Tuning into these signs can help you catch a trigger before it takes over.

Connect the dots

Once you start noticing patterns, dig deeper. Why does this trigger affect you so strongly? For instance, if criticism from a boss makes you spiral, it could stem from past feelings of inadequacy. Understanding the “why” behind your triggers gives you the power to address them at their root.

Strategies to manage emotional triggers that lead to substance abuse

Once you’ve identified your emotional triggers, the next challenge is figuring out how to respond to them in healthier ways. That said, here are a few ideas on how to do so.

1 Develop healthy coping mechanisms

When emotions hit hard, it’s natural to want some kind of relief. But instead of turning to substances, try channeling that energy into healthy habits.

If stress is your go-to trigger, a quick workout or even a walk outside can do wonders to clear your head. Feeling lonely? Call a friend or pour your thoughts into a journal—it can be surprisingly freeing.

Sure, these alternatives might feel awkward or forced at first, but stick with them. Over time,
they’ll become second nature, and you’ll feel the difference.

2 Practice mindfulness

When a trigger arises, take a moment to breathe and ground yourself. Mindfulness won’t make triggers disappear, though. Still, it can prevent them from spiraling into substance abuse.

3 Set boundaries

Triggers are often linked to people, places, or situations that drain your emotional energy. If certain environments or relationships consistently push you toward substance use, it’s time to set boundaries. This might mean saying no to events where substances are heavily present or limiting contact with people who create unnecessary stress.

4 Create a distraction plan

When a trigger hits, the urge to react can feel overpowering. Having a pre-planned distraction can help you ride out the wave. Watch a favorite show, dive into a hobby, organize your space, or do anything that shifts your focus for long enough to regain control.

5 Build a support system

You don’t have to manage triggers alone. Surround yourself with people who encourage and uplift you. This could be friends, family, or even a support group where others understand what you’re going through.

6 Replace triggers with positive routines

Some triggers come from gaps in your routine, like idle time that fuels negative thinking. Fill those gaps with meaningful activities. Pick up a new skill, commit to regular exercise, or explore creative outlets. Positive routines will help rewire your response to emotional stress.

Seeking help

Despite your best efforts, managing emotional triggers on your own can feel like an uphill battle.

But who said you had to go through it alone?

In fact, there are treatment facilities that exist for the sole purpose of helping individuals struggling with addiction regain control of their lives. Mental health professionals at Tranquility Recovery Center can help you identify emotional triggers that lead to substance abuse and teach you how to manage them in a way that involves no substances.

Of course, there’s also comfort in knowing you’re not alone. Thus, groups like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA), or SMART Recovery can be a good place to share your struggles and find support from those who've been in your shoes. Here, you'll also find a ''sponsor'' whom you can contact whenever you feel a trigger will lead you toward a dark path.

No matter the kind of help, know that the sooner you seek it, the easier it will be to address your triggers. Not sure where to start? A simple call to a local helpline or a conversation with your doctor can open doors to the support you need.

The bottom line

Your triggers don’t define you—they’re just part of the story. The real power lies in how you choose to respond. Every time you recognize emotional triggers that lead to substance abuse and face them without turning to substances, you’re breaking the cycle. But to actually get to this point, you need to understand your triggers first. Once you do, you can work toward building healthier habits step by step. Of course, if you can't do it alone, help is just a call or session away. And know this: asking for help doesn't make you weak. On the contrary, it makes you stronger than you'll ever know. The road to recovery is hard, but your willingness to change proves your strength. Keep fighting, and sooner than you know, you'll not only be managing your triggers. You'll own them!

When I first began my EMDR journey, I didn’t realize how much it would open the door to meeting and healing the many parts of myself. Through Internal Family Systems (IFS) work, I learned to connect with these inner parts—the protector, the exile, the wounded child—and to understand their roles in my life. It was humbling and emotional, but also deeply empowering.

Among all these parts, my inner child stood out. She carried so much of the vulnerability and pain I had long buried. She also held the joy, curiosity, and hope I longed to rediscover. Learning to reparent her—to be the caregiver, protector, and nurturer she always needed—became one of the most profound aspects of my healing.

Yet, it was Yoga Nidra that truly reinforced and deepened this process. It offered me a way to nurture her in the quietest and most loving of ways.

The Gentle Intersection of IFS and Yoga Nidra

IFS taught me to approach my inner parts with curiosity and compassion. Yoga Nidra became the safe container for these conversations. During one particular practice, as the guide invited me to visualize my inner child, I found her waiting in a warm, inviting space. She wasn’t angry or scared—she was just waiting for me, with quiet trust.

Using the tools I had learned in EMDR and IFS, I approached her with love and reassurance. In that moment, I could feel the integration happening. The protective parts of me stepped aside, letting me connect with her without fear. The exile within me softened, allowing the pain she carried to be acknowledged without shame.

Reparenting Through Presence

In this Yoga Nidra session, I spoke to my inner child with the words I wished I had heard when I was younger:

“I see you, my love. You are safe now. You don’t have to carry the weight of guilt or shame anymore. I am here to protect you.”

Each word felt like a thread, weaving together a stronger bond between us. And as I embraced her—both in my mind and in my heart—I could feel her trust in me grow. It was a deeply moving moment, one that solidified the reparenting I’d been working on for months in therapy.

The Role of Yoga Nidra in Healing

Yoga Nidra makes such a powerful companion to IFS and EMDR. This is because of its ability to create a calm, nonjudgmental space where healing can unfold naturally. In these sessions, I can connect with my inner child in a way that feels intuitive and safe. The guided relaxation quiets the noise of the outside world, making space for the soft whispers of my soul.

Yoga Nidra also reinforces the new, healthier patterns I’m building through reparenting. By consistently returning to this practice, I’m teaching my inner child—and myself—that safety, love, and care are available to us now.

An Invitation to Your Journey

If you’re exploring Internal Family Systems, EMDR, or any other therapeutic modality, I encourage you to try Yoga Nidra as a way to deepen your healing. Imagine it as a bridge that connects your inner work to the present moment, allowing you to embody the safety and love you’re cultivating within.

Healing isn’t linear, and it isn’t always easy. But in these moments of connection—when you sit with your inner child, hold her hand, and promise her the care she deserves—you take one more step toward wholeness. And that, I’ve learned, is a gift worth giving yourself.

As a neurodivergent mom navigating the ups and downs of parenting, I’ve personally experienced how life-changing Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) can be. EMDR therapy gave me the tools to process my past, calm my nervous system, and show up as the mindful parent I’ve always wanted to be. For neurodivergent moms and other individuals like me, who often feel overstimulated and overwhelmed, EMDR offers a path to healing that feels safe, supportive, and empowering.

What Is EMDR?

EMDR is a therapy designed to help people process and release distressing memories. It uses guided movements, like following a therapist’s fingers, or other forms of bilateral stimulation to help the brain “reorganize” how it stores past experiences. It’s been widely studied for trauma, but recent research is shining a light on its potential benefits for neurodivergent individuals, including those with ADHD and autism.

Benefits of EMDR for Neurodivergent Individuals

1. Emotional Regulation
   For neurodivergent moms, processing emotions can sometimes feel like navigating a storm. EMDR helps calm those emotional waves by addressing the root of the distress. I found it transformative in helping me respond rather than react during challenging parenting moments.
2. Reduction in Anxiety and Stress
   EMDR can help untangle the web of anxiety that many neurodivergent people face daily. By reprocessing triggering memories, EMDR can reduce the weight of worry and create space for a greater sense of peace.
3. Improved Focus and Clarity
   For those with ADHD, unresolved stress or trauma can make it harder to focus. EMDR helps clear mental clutter, allowing individuals to approach tasks with a clearer mind.
4. Boosted Confidence and Self-Worth
   Negative self-talk can be a constant companion for neurodivergent individuals. EMDR replaces those intrusive thoughts with healthier, affirming beliefs. Personally, it’s helped me shift from “I’m not good enough” to “I am more than enough.”
5. Stronger Relationships
   As a mom, I’ve seen firsthand how EMDR has made me more present and connected with my kids. Many neurodivergent individuals also find it helps reduce social anxiety, making it easier to connect with others.

How EMDR Can Be Adapted for Neurodivergent Individuals

The neurodivergent brain is beautifully unique, and EMDR works best when tailored to each person’s needs. Here are some ways therapists can adapt EMDR for neurodivergent individuals:

• Clear and Simple Communication
  Therapists can explain EMDR techniques in plain language and use visual aids to help individuals understand the process.
• Sensory Sensitivity Awareness
  Creating a sensory-friendly environment—whether that means dimming lights or avoiding certain sounds—can make the experience more comfortable.

• Building Trust
  A strong therapeutic relationship is key. This means therapists need to meet clients where they are and move at a pace that feels right.

Potential Challenges and How to Address Them

While EMDR is incredibly effective, neurodivergent individuals might face unique challenges:

• Communication Differences
  Some neurodivergent individuals may struggle to articulate their feelings or experiences. A therapist skilled in alternative communication methods can bridge this gap.
• Sensory Overload
  The bilateral stimulation used in EMDR can sometimes feel overwhelming. Therapists can modify techniques to suit sensory preferences, such as using gentle tapping instead of eye movements.

By being aware of these potential challenges, EMDR therapists can ensure that neurodivergent individuals feel supported and understood throughout their healing journey.

The Personal Impact of EMDR for Neurodivergent Moms

As a neurodivergent mom, my EMDR sessions felt like peeling back layers of doubt, fear, and overwhelm to uncover the confident, mindful parent within. It’s helped me stay present during meltdowns, embrace imperfection, and give my kids the unconditional love they deserve.

If you’re a neurodivergent individual considering EMDR, know that it’s more than a therapy—it’s a gift to yourself and those you love.

As a mom, your schedule is a nonstop whirlwind of school pickups, work deadlines, meal prep, and everything in between. It's no wonder the idea of taking time for therapy or self-care feels impossible. You’re not alone in thinking, “How can I make time for me when everyone else depends on me?”

The truth is, making time for your own healing isn’t just important—it’s essential. When you prioritize your well-being, you’re better equipped to care for your family, manage stress, and enjoy your life. Let’s explore realistic ways to carve out time for therapy, healing, and self-care, even with the busiest of schedules, and why EMDR intensives might be the perfect solution for moms on the go.

Why Healing Matters for Moms

Burnout and unresolved stress don’t just affect you—they ripple out to your family, work, and relationships. Healing isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity for:

• Being Present: When you’re calm and regulated, you can fully engage with your kids and loved ones.
• Breaking Cycles: Addressing old patterns helps ensure you don’t pass unresolved trauma to the next generation.
• Reclaiming Joy: Healing allows you to reconnect with who you are beyond your roles as mom, partner, or professional.

Investing in yourself benefits everyone around you—but how can you fit it into an already packed schedule?

5 Tips for Making Time for Healing

1. Shift Your Mindset: You Deserve This

The first step is recognizing that your healing is a priority, not a luxury. Moms often feel guilty for taking time for themselves, but think of it this way: when you’re well, your family thrives.

• Reframe Self-Care: See therapy and self-care as non-negotiable, like feeding your kids or paying bills.
• Start Small: Even 30 minutes a week to focus on yourself can make a difference.

2. Audit Your Schedule

A packed schedule often includes obligations that aren’t as critical as they feel. Take a close look at where your time is going:

• Identify Time-Wasters: Are you spending too much time scrolling social media or saying yes to activities out of guilt?
• Delegate: Let go of tasks that others can handle—whether it’s meal delivery, hiring a babysitter, or asking your partner to take over bedtime routines.
• Create Pockets of Time: Combine self-care with downtime. For example, listen to a mindfulness app while waiting in the carpool line.

3. Build a Village

Mom's often carry an invisible mental load, which feels like more tasks on a busy schedule already, but you don’t have to do it all alone.

• Ask for Help: Reach out to family, friends, or neighbors for support. People are often happy to pitch in—they just need to be asked.
• Share Responsibilities: If you have a partner, divide parenting and household duties to free up time for yourself.
• Join a Community: Find groups or networks of moms who can offer encouragement and share resources.

4. Schedule Self-Care Like an Appointment

When something is on your calendar, it’s more likely to happen. Treat therapy and self-care like any other commitment.

• Set Regular Time Blocks: Carve out specific times each week for your mental health. Even if it’s only 15 minutes a day, consistency matters. Even with a mom's busy schedule self care time blocks can work!
• Plan Ahead: Let your family know when you’ll be unavailable and arrange coverage in advance.

5. Consider EMDR Intensives for Faster Results

One of the biggest barriers to healing for busy moms is the time commitment of traditional therapy, which often involves weekly sessions over months or even years. This is where EMDR intensives shine.

What is an EMDR Intensive?
An EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) intensive condenses weeks of therapy into 1–3 full or half-day sessions. It’s a highly focused format designed to help you make significant progress in a short amount of time.

Why Moms Love Intensives:

• Time-Efficient: Instead of committing to months of therapy, you can address core issues in just a few days.
• Flexible Scheduling: Intensives can often be planned around your availability, such as during a long weekend or when you have childcare.
• Immediate Relief: Many moms notice a tangible difference in their emotional well-being after just one intensive.

What Happens During an EMDR Intensive?

An EMDR intensive is structured to maximize healing while ensuring you feel supported and safe, and fitting into any mom's schedule. Here’s what you can expect:

1. Preparation: You’ll learn grounding techniques and set goals for the intensive.
2. Processing: The core part of the session involves reprocessing painful memories or triggers using bilateral stimulation (e.g., guided eye movements).
3. Closure: Each session ends with grounding exercises to leave you feeling calm and empowered.

The best part? You’ll walk away with tools and strategies to continue your healing journey long after the session ends.

How to Get Started

Imagine how different life could feel if you:

Making time for your own healing might feel impossible at first, but with small shifts in your mindset and schedule, it can become a reality. And if you’re ready for a solution that fits your busy life, an EMDR intensive could be the perfect fit.

• Stopped reacting to triggers with frustration or yelling.
• Had more patience, calm, and joy in your daily life.
• Finally felt like you again, not just a mom juggling a million things.

Healing is possible, and it doesn’t have to take forever.

Ready to make time for YOU?
Click here to schedule your free consultation and learn how an EMDR intensive can help you reclaim your balance and thrive as the amazing mom you already are.

Because you deserve to feel whole, happy, and present—for your family and for yourself.

Parenting is no small feat. For many moms, the daily juggling act of work, family, and life’s endless demands can bring up feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, or even triggers from their own past. If you’ve heard about EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) as a therapeutic option, you might be curious—but also have questions about how it works and whether it’s right for you.

Let’s break down some of the most common questions moms ask about EMDR and provide clear answers to help you decide if it could be the right step toward healing.

1. What is EMDR, and how does it work?

EMDR is an evidence-based therapy designed to help individuals process and heal from trauma, stress, and negative experiences. Instead of traditional talk therapy, EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (such as eye movements, tapping, or audio tones) to help your brain reprocess distressing memories or triggers.

Here’s how it works:

• When something upsetting happens, your brain might store it in a way that feels "stuck," leaving you feeling triggered even years later.
• EMDR helps your brain reprocess these experiences so they no longer cause intense emotional reactions.
• The result? You feel calmer, less reactive, and more in control.

2. Is EMDR just for trauma survivors?

While EMDR was initially developed for people with PTSD, it’s effective for a wide range of issues, including:

• Anxiety and overwhelm.
• Negative self-beliefs (e.g., "I’m not a good mom").
• Chronic stress or burnout.
• Triggers that stem from childhood experiences, such as being yelled at or feeling unsupported.

For moms, EMDR can address not only past trauma but also how those experiences show up in your parenting today—like reacting strongly when your child doesn’t listen or struggling with perfectionism.

3. What does an EMDR session look like?

Each session is structured to help you feel safe and supported as you work through challenging emotions. Here’s a general outline:

Closure: Each session ends with grounding exercises to ensure you leave feeling stable and calm.

History-taking: Your therapist will gather information about your life, triggers, and what you want to work on.

Preparation: You’ll learn calming techniques and coping strategies to use during and outside of therapy.

Reprocessing: During the core part of the session, you’ll focus on a specific memory or feeling while following the therapist’s bilateral stimulation (e.g., moving your eyes back and forth). This helps your brain reprocess the experience in a way that reduces its emotional charge.

4. How long does EMDR take?

This depends on your goals and the complexity of what you’re addressing. While traditional therapy might involve weekly sessions over months, EMDR can often produce results more quickly, especially with intensive formats.

For busy moms, EMDR intensives—where you work with a therapist for 1–3 full or half days—are a game-changer. They allow you to make significant progress in a short amount of time, which is ideal for those who can’t commit to long-term therapy.

5. Is EMDR safe for moms with young children?

Absolutely! EMDR is non-invasive and designed to be as gentle as possible. If your triggers or stress are related to parenting (like yelling or feelings of inadequacy), addressing these through EMDR can actually help you feel more present and calm with your children.

Plus, the preparation phase of EMDR often includes learning techniques to regulate your nervous system—skills that can be applied during those hectic moments of motherhood.

6. What if I’m afraid to revisit painful memories?

This is a common concern, and it’s valid. The thought of bringing up old wounds can feel intimidating, especially for moms who are already stretched thin emotionally.

The good news is that EMDR doesn’t require you to talk about the details of your trauma if you’re not ready. The focus is on how your brain stores the memory, not the specifics of the event. Your therapist will guide the process at your pace, ensuring you feel supported and safe.

7. How does EMDR help with mom burnout?

Burnout often stems from juggling too much while carrying unresolved stress or trauma. EMDR helps moms by:

• Releasing negative beliefs like "I have to do it all" or "I’m not enough."
• Calming the nervous system so you feel less reactive and more present.
• Addressing deep-rooted triggers that contribute to yelling, anxiety, or feelings of overwhelm.

Many moms report feeling lighter, more patient, and more focused after EMDR therapy.

8. Are EMDR intensives covered by insurance?

EMDR intensives are not covered by insurance, as they’re considered outside the scope of traditional therapy. We know therapy is an investment in your future. That’s why we offer:

• Flexible payment plans & 0% APR financing through CareCredit.
• Payment options like HSA/FSA and credit cards.
  Your healing is worth it.

9. What makes EMDR intensives different from regular sessions?

Traditional therapy sessions last around 50 minutes, which can sometimes feel too short to dive deeply into your concerns. EMDR intensives offer extended, focused time to work through your challenges without interruption.

For busy moms, this format is ideal because:

• You can make significant progress in a condensed timeframe.
• It eliminates the need for weekly sessions, which can be hard to schedule.
• You leave with noticeable relief and actionable tools to continue your healing journey.

10. How do I know if EMDR is right for me?

EMDR could be a great fit if:

You’re feeling stuck in patterns of stress, burnout, or reactivity.

Traditional talk therapy hasn’t provided the relief you’re looking for.

You want to heal deeply but don’t have the time for long-term therapy.

A consultation with an EMDR-trained therapist can help you determine whether it’s the right option for your unique situation.

Ready to Start Your EMDR Journey?

Motherhood is hard enough without carrying the weight of unresolved stress, burnout, or trauma. EMDR offers a pathway to healing that’s tailored for moms who need relief—quickly and effectively.

If you’re ready to stop yelling, calm your mind, and feel like yourself again, an EMDR intensive could be the perfect solution. In just 1–3 days, you can make life-changing progress and create space for the joy, patience, and confidence you deserve.

and take the first step toward healing for you—and your family.

As an EMDR therapist living with ADHD and childhood trauma, I’ve seen firsthand how these experiences intertwine. Many neurodivergent moms with ADHD have also faced developmental trauma, often rooted in neglect or emotional abandonment. When caregivers fail to provide the nurturing support that neurodivergent children need, it can leave lasting wounds. If you’re an ADHD mom navigating these challenges, you’re not alone. Here are common core wounds and reflections on how to start healing.

1. Self-Esteem Struggles

When caregivers don’t understand or validate us as children, we can grow up feeling fundamentally flawed or unworthy of love.

• The Challenge: If my caregivers couldn’t see and accept the real me, does that mean I’m unlovable?

• The Work: As an EMDR therapist, I know that healing begins with confronting these deeply held beliefs. We can reprocess past experiences, challenge negative self-perceptions, and cultivate self-compassion. You are not broken—you are worthy of love and acceptance just as you are.

2. People-Pleasing Tendencies

Many ADHD trauma survivors learn to prioritize others’ needs in hopes of earning love and approval, often at the cost of their own well-being.

• The Challenge: Maybe if I meet everyone’s demands and expectations, I’ll finally be enough.

• The Work: Setting boundaries and respecting your own capacity is deeply uncomfortable but transformative. EMDR can help desensitize the fear of rejection and build confidence in your worth, even when you can’t be everything for everyone. True connection doesn’t require you to sacrifice yourself.

3. Chronic Burnout

For neurodivergent moms with trauma histories, the drive to “keep it together” and mask struggles can lead to overwhelming burnout. The pressure to appear in control often drains what little energy remains.

• The Challenge: I can’t let anyone see me struggling; I have to handle it all.

• The Work: Vulnerability is a strength. Allowing others to see you when you’re struggling—and seeking support when you need it—can be deeply healing. EMDR therapy can address the underlying fear of showing weakness and help you cultivate safe, trusting connections.

4. Rejection Sensitivity

Rejection sensitivity can be heightened by ADHD and trauma, making even small interactions feel intensely painful or anxiety-provoking.

• The Challenge: I’m always bracing for rejection. Will I be hurt again?

• The Work: Healing involves learning to trust yourself and others again. With EMDR, we can reprocess past rejections and reduce the emotional charge they hold. By showing up as your true self, you create space for authentic connections with those who genuinely accept you.

5. Demand Avoidance

For ADHD trauma survivors, even basic tasks can feel overwhelming and painful. If you weren’t given nurturing support and life skills as a child, adult responsibilities can trigger deep feelings of inadequacy.

• The Challenge: I can’t meet everyone’s expectations when I’ve never been properly cared for myself.

• The Work: Grieving what you didn’t receive is part of the process. EMDR therapy can help you reprocess unmet needs and find ways to care for your inner child. Building gentle routines and prioritizing self-compassion can make “adulting” less overwhelming.

6. Perfectionism and Performance

Many neurodivergent moms with trauma feel driven to be perfect, hoping to earn love and validation through flawless performance.

• The Challenge: I need to be perfect to be valued or loved.

• The Work: Perfection is not the answer; it’s often a protective response to past wounds. EMDR therapy can help you let go of this exhausting cycle, showing you that you’re enough, just as you are. Embracing imperfection allows you to be present and authentic, for yourself and your family.

Finding Healing as an ADHD Mom

Living with ADHD and trauma is complex, but healing is possible. Through EMDR therapy, I’ve witnessed powerful transformations. We can reprocess painful memories, reduce triggers, and challenge deeply rooted beliefs that no longer serve us.

Healing involves self-compassion, boundary-setting, and finding supportive spaces where you can be fully seen and accepted.

You are not alone. You are not broken. You deserve to heal, thrive, and live authentically.

Does this resonate with you? Let’s create a space to share, reflect, and support one another on the path to healing.

With love,

Jamie Vollmoeller, LCSW

Managing your daily life and being a functional, productive adult is difficult with bipolar and other personality disorders. Sure, proper treatment can help you become the best version of yourself even with this mental health issue — but you still need to do a lot of work on your own if you want to manage symptoms daily. Besides seeking aid for bipolar disorder, there are a few things you can do to alleviate the resulting stress. Let’s dive in and see what you can do to take more control of your daily life!

Aid for Bipolar Disorder: Seek Treatment

Managing bipolar disorder can feel overwhelming, with the brain’s biochemistry often seeming to dictate one’s emotions. Yet, effective treatment can significantly change that. Through a combination of therapy and medication from qualified professionals, many individuals find they can regain a sense of emotional control.

Unfortunately, access to this kind of local care can sometimes be challenging, especially in states with poorer mental health care. For instance, in Tennessee alone, approximately 115,000 adults experience severe bipolar disorder, aligning with national prevalence rates of 2.8%. Despite this, many individuals may not receive the necessary treatment, highlighting a need for accessible mental health resources in the area.

As a leading mental health treatment center in the state, Time Wellness Tennessee actively addresses this growing need for accessible mental health care. They work hard to close the treatment gap for those with bipolar disorder. Through comprehensive services focused on mood stabilization and stress management, they empower individuals across Tennessee to better manage the unique challenges of this condition. By providing locally accessible treatment options, this center plays a vital role in improving the quality of life for those navigating bipolar disorder, fostering stability and resilience in the community.

However, self-management strategies can make a significant difference in addition to professional support. Techniques like structured routines, mindfulness, and regular exercise can help alleviate symptoms. This leads to fewer and less intense mood swings over time. Remember, life with bipolar disorder involves ongoing choices. By making healthy ones, it’s possible to lead a more balanced and fulfilling life with symptoms that feel more manageable.

Learn More About Your Condition

The best way to improve the effectiveness of your treatment is to participate in it actively. That means doing more than passively listening to your healthcare provider.

Instead, start reading up on your condition and study its causes, effects, and symptoms. If you find the energy to become an everyday expert on the subject, you can make better choices in the long run. Being informed is its kind of superpower, especially when you’re collaborating with therapists and doctors.

You’ll always be expected to voice questions and opinions while the experts plan your treatment. If you want to communicate effectively, you might as well try to have an informed opinion.

In the process, you’ll also learn to be more patient with the treatment. When you know more about bipolar disorder, you’ll understand why a total and instant cure isn’t an option. Instead, you’ll be more open to exploring different treatment plans and programs until you find something that works for you.

With more information, you’ll also be able to verbalize your needs better and explain any medication side effects to your doctor in more detail.

Actively Monitor Your Symptoms

As we’ve mentioned above, seeking aid for bipolar disorder is important. It is equally crucial to constantly self-regulate and monitor your emotional states. Bipolar disorder is far from a static condition, and your treatment is likely to change over time.

To ensure you’re getting the most effective help, you must be more in tune with your feelings than the average person. You need to know when depressive and manic episodes begin and roughly when they end. Incorporating self-monitoring practices into your daily routine can significantly enhance the management of bipolar disorder.

In truth, a study published in the International Journal of Bipolar Disorders highlights that self-monitoring increases illness insight and self-management by helping patients make lifestyle adjustments and facilitating communication with clinicians.

By diligently tracking your mood fluctuations, energy levels, and sleep patterns, you can identify early signs of mood episodes and take proactive steps to mitigate their impact.

Unfortunately, mood swings are often difficult to intercept because we notice their warning signs too late. You must closely monitor your energy levels, general mood, and sleeping patterns.

Otherwise, you are more likely to stay one step behind your bipolar disorder instead of managing the worst mood swings in advance. It’s exhausting, and such intentional monitoring of your emotional states takes up much time and energy — but it’s necessary to stabilize your mood in the long run.

Develop Mood Stabilizing Techniques

Every person is different, and no two cases of bipolar disorder are the same. This is why you’ll need ways to stabilize your mood and reduce stress. However, there are plenty of methods that you can include in your overall strategy.

It’ll take some time and energy to experiment with different techniques and find what works best for you, but the result will be more long-term stability.

For instance, you can always take extra care to get enough sleep — at least eight hours. Also, you can develop a network of close friends and family who are available for an honest conversation about how you’re feeling.

If you’re not sure your closest social circle provides enough support, consider looking for a support group nearby. On the other hand, you can consider which activities and chores drain your energy more than others and find ways to cut back on them.

Depending on whether you’re the creative type, you can also write a journal or find another outlet for your pent-up energy. Exercise is always a great idea, as is exposing yourself to as much sunlight as possible.

For most people with bipolar disorder, minimizing the amount of caffeine you drink daily is beneficial. Eliminating alcohol is a must, considering its disruptive effects on your mood. Plus, alcohol is almost guaranteed to interfere with your medications — so it’s not something you want to mess around with.

Of course, the specific mix of techniques you use to improve your mood will depend on your preferences.

Wrapping Up

While there’s no definitive cure for bipolar, you can do plenty to manage the illness and minimize its symptoms. Besides seeking professional aid for bipolar disorder, you can do everything in your power to lead a healthy, fulfilled life. Over time, these healthy habits will help you stabilize your mood — but they require persistence.

As the political climate continues to evolve, participating in elections has become more crucial than ever. Early voting has emerged as a key aspect of the electoral process, offering voters increased flexibility and convenience. By allowing people to cast their ballots before the official election day, early voting ensures that more voices are heard and reduces the strain on polling places. In this blog post, we'll explore why early voting is important, highlight its benefits, and examine how it can alleviate election-time anxiety. We'll also discuss the impact of political rhetoric on marginalized communities and the necessity for fact-based policy discussions.

The Importance of Early Voting

Early voting ensures more citizens have the chance to participate in elections. This is especially true for those facing scheduling conflicts or unforeseen obstacles on election day. In Virginia, about 90% of those who took advantage of early voting are consistent voters, having participated in at least two or three of the past three statewide general elections. This statistic underscores early voting's role in engaging consistent voters and promoting active citizenship.

Benefits of Early Voting

Early voting significantly enhances accessibility, allowing voters to cast their ballots at a time that suits them best before the official election day. This flexibility can result in higher voter turnout and more representative election outcomes. In Virginia, for instance, over 300,000 people exercised their right to vote on the first day of early voting. Such numbers reflect the enthusiasm and accessibility that early voting can foster.

Additionally, early voting can reduce the stress associated with election day by spreading out the voting process. This minimizes long lines and crowded polling stations. This creates a more comfortable voting experience and ensures that more voices are heard in the democratic process.

How Early Voting Can Alleviate Election-Time Anxiety

Early voting can significantly reduce the stress and anxiety often associated with election day. The number of people experiencing election-related anxiety had risen to 68%. With the option to vote early, voters no longer have to worry about encountering long lines, unexpected technical issues, or last-minute emergencies that could prevent them from casting their ballots. This extended voting period allows individuals to choose a convenient time that fits their schedules. It spreads out voter turnout, easing congestion at polling stations. The flexibility of early voting offers peace of mind, and creates a more relaxed and efficient voting experience. It ensures that the electoral process is accessible to all, regardless of their personal circumstances.

Key Dates for Early Voting in New York

New York offers early voting approximately ten days before the official election day. The first day of early voting (in-person) for the 2024 presidential election in New York is Saturday, Oct. 26. This early voting period is designed to enhance accessibility and ensure that every voter has the opportunity to cast their ballot without the pressure of doing so on a single day. To make the most of early voting, it’s essential for New Yorkers to stay informed about the specific dates and locations available for their district. This information can vary depending on the election year and type of election.

By planning ahead, voters can avoid the rush and potential issues that may arise on election day. Early voting sites are typically well-distributed across various communities, ensuring that everyone has a nearby location where they can vote early. This proactive approach to voting helps create a more inclusive and efficient electoral process. It allows individuals to engage in the democratic process on their own terms.

The Impact of Political Rhetoric on Marginalized Communities

Political rhetoric can profoundly shape public perception and influence policy decisions, often to the detriment of marginalized communities. These communities frequently bear the brunt of harmful narratives that perpetuate stereotypes and spread misinformation, which can discourage them from participating in the electoral process. The consequences of such rhetoric are far-reaching, contributing to social and economic inequalities that further marginalize these groups.

One of the most significant impacts of damaging political rhetoric is its ability to sway public opinion against policies that would benefit marginalized communities. When politicians use divisive language or spread false information, it can lead to policies that disproportionately harm these groups. This is whether through reduced access to essential services, heightened scrutiny, or increased discrimination.

Moreover, harmful rhetoric can create an environment of fear and mistrust, making it difficult for marginalized communities to advocate for their rights effectively. This climate of hostility can result in lower voter turnout among these groups. Individuals may feel that their voices are not valued or that their participation will not make a difference.

Additionally, political rhetoric often sets the tone for public discourse. It influences how issues are framed and discussed in the media and society at large. When the rhetoric is negative or misleading, it shapes a narrative that can be hard to counteract. This reinforces harmful stereotypes and biases.

Efforts to combat the negative impacts of political rhetoric should include promoting inclusive and fact-based discussions. Specifically discussions that elevate the experiences and voices of marginalized communities. By challenging harmful narratives and fostering a more respectful and informed dialogue, we can create a more equitable political landscape that genuinely represents all citizens.

The Need for Fact-Based Policy Discussions

In today’s politically charged environment, the spread of misinformation has become a significant barrier to constructive dialogue. Fact-based policy discussions are crucial for ensuring that voters have the necessary information to make decisions that best serve their communities. When political discourse is grounded in truth, it allows for more productive debates and the creation of policies that genuinely address societal needs. This is especially important for marginalized communities, which are often disproportionately affected by policies shaped by misinformation and harmful rhetoric.

Promoting transparency and evidence-based discussions helps counteract false narratives and supports the development of equitable solutions. Encouraging all citizens to engage with verified information can bridge political divides and foster a more informed and cohesive society. By prioritizing facts over sensationalism, we can work towards a political landscape where decisions are made based on accurate information and mutual understanding.

Halloween is a time of great excitement for children, filled with costumes, decorations, and of course, candy. However, for many parents, managing children’s behavior during this sugar-fueled holiday can be a daunting task. The thrill of trick-or-treating and the subsequent candy consumption often lead to heightened energy levels and emotional swings. By understanding the dynamics at play, parents can better navigate this candy-filled Halloween, ensuring a fun and memorable experience for everyone involved.

Understanding the Causes of Halloween Stress in Children

Halloween can bring a lot of pressure for children, stemming from various factors like costumes, social interactions, and candy anticipation. Sensory overload from spooky decorations, loud noises, and large crowds adds to their stress levels. Children might also feel anxious if their Halloween experience doesn’t meet societal expectations. All these factors combined can create a challenging environment for young ones, making it difficult for them to cope. Understanding these stressors helps parents offer the necessary support and create a more manageable Halloween experience for their children. Research shows that engaging in creative storytelling using Halloween themes can improve cognitive flexibility in children, helping them manage stress by finding constructive outlets for their energy.

Setting Realistic Expectations for Halloween Fun

Halloween is often portrayed as a magical night, but it's important to ground this excitement with realistic expectations. Discuss with your child what the evening will entail, including any limitations. If trick-or-treating will be brief or include only a few houses, make sure they understand this beforehand. Clarify the amount of candy they can collect and consume, and outline any plans for alternative activities like a small Halloween party at home or a movie night. By doing so, you help set the stage for a satisfying experience that matches what is actually feasible, reducing the likelihood of disappointment or frustration.

Managing Candy Consumption and Sugar Rushes

One of the biggest challenges of Halloween is managing the inevitable sugar rush from candy consumption. Establish rules around candy intake before the festivities begin. Consider allowing a small amount of candy on Halloween night, with the promise of rationing the rest over the following days. Encourage your child to choose their favorite pieces to enjoy first. Offer healthy snacks alongside candy to balance out the sugar. Make sure to keep children hydrated, as water can help moderate sugar's effects on their system. Involve them in a discussion about how too much candy can make them feel unwell, fostering an understanding of moderation. This approach not only curbs sugar overload but also teaches children valuable lessons about self-control and healthy eating habits.

Encouraging Positive Behaviors Through Fun Activities

Halloween-themed activities can be a fantastic way to direct children's excitement into positive behaviors. Host a small craft session where kids can create their own decorations or design costumes from materials you already have at home. This not only keeps them engaged but also sparks their creativity. Organize team-based games like scavenger hunts or pumpkin carving contests to promote cooperation and patience. Activities like these can teach valuable skills and improve children's behavior. Consider setting up a storytelling circle where each child can share their own spooky tales. This helps develop their listening and storytelling abilities.

You could also plan a Halloween-themed baking session, allowing kids to help make simple treats. This not only makes for a fun activity but also gives you a chance to teach them about following instructions and working together. For a calming activity, a Halloween movie night with a selection of age-appropriate films can help wind down the excitement while still keeping the festive spirit alive. By incorporating these activities, you can create a structured yet enjoyable environment that encourages good behavior and makes Halloween special for your children.

Making the Most of Halloween For Your Children on a Budget

Halloween doesn’t have to be an expensive affair to be enjoyable. With many families working with limited resources, creativity is key. About 69% of consumers plan to purchase costumes for Halloween, but you can save by creating unique outfits from items you already own. Engage your children in making their own costumes, turning it into a fun bonding activity. Additionally, nearly 45% of consumers start their Halloween shopping before October, which can lead to better deals and less stress. Planning ahead allows for budget-friendly preparations without last-minute pressure. Emphasizing simple joys like storytelling or movie nights can also contribute to a memorable holiday experience.

Preparing for Post-Halloween Transition

As Halloween draws to a close, it's important to help children transition smoothly back to their regular routines. Begin by gradually reducing candy consumption and re-establishing normal eating habits. This can help regulate their energy levels and mood, making it easier to return to daily activities. Engage your child in a discussion about their favorite moments from Halloween to help them process the excitement and bring a sense of closure to the event.

Reinforce bedtime routines to ensure your child gets adequate rest, which is crucial for maintaining balanced behavior. Consider creating a calm and soothing environment for bedtime, perhaps by reading a favorite book or playing gentle music to help them unwind. Encouraging physical activities during the day can also help burn off any lingering energy from the holiday's excitement.

If your child feels a sense of letdown after Halloween, plan some simple, enjoyable activities to look forward to. These could be small family outings, craft projects, or playdates with friends. Keeping them engaged can ease the post-holiday blues and provide a positive focus.

Additionally, review and acknowledge the lessons learned from Halloween, such as the importance of moderation in candy consumption and the value of sharing and cooperation. These conversations can reinforce good habits and behaviors, setting a positive tone for the future.

By carefully managing the post-Halloween transition, you can help your child return to their everyday routine with minimal disruption, ensuring that the fun of the holiday is remembered fondly without lingering stress or behavioral challenges.